We create safety in risky situations all the time, but not usually for risky conversations.
Creating a safe space in a conversation allows you to enter the conversation with more ease and confidence.
Your safe space may look different for different people or different contexts, depending on past experiences and current fears.
Together you agree to abide by 2-3 agreements before the "real" conversation begins.
I want to invite you to come up with what 2-3 agreements are most important to you based on the relationships that you have. If you go back to your PEACE NOTES, who where they to? Can you use the same agreements with all of those people, or would you rather differentiate the agreements depending on your fears.
Some agreements might be:
Listen fully before responding
Stay open-minded/No judgment
Show compassion, understanding, and empathy
Participate in the conversation with me (for those quiet types)
Not take things personally
Hold the belief that we are all doing our best
Owning our mistakes and contributions to breakdowns