My Bitchy Boss Cost Me $700K

Seems unbelievable, I know, so let me back up a bit.

When I was working for my not so great boss, it was taking a major emotional toll that cannot be easily quantified in numbers:

Sleepless Nights
Increased Anxiety
Increased Stress
Plummeting Confidence
Diminished Feelings of Worthiness
Loss of Purpose
Increase irritability which affected my other relationships.
Etc.

I don’t think I can put a price on any of those because they are in fact PRICELESS.

That is just the emotional side. 

Let’s talk about the financial side. 

It has been 5 years since I quit my job with my not-so-great boss. At the time I was making a 6 figure salary. 

5 years x $100,000 = $500,000 NOT earned. 

(Not including any pay raises or cost of living increases that I may have gotten.)

In addition, there is the fact that I quit 6 months shy of being vested for my pension, which on the low end would have given me $800/month from the age 65 to death. 

$800 x 20 years (low estimate) = $192,000.

And because I was living in America, where healthcare is not a right, I had to pay to be added to my husband’s health insurance.

$500/month x 24 months = $12,000.

GRAND TOTAL: $704,000

And yes, I have earned money since I quit, but it hasn’t been nearly the amount that I would have made if I had stayed. 

For the first 6 months after I quit I had no income. 

Then I got a job making $9.25/hour, then up to $20/hour. 

When I started my coaching business, it took a long time to get things rolling, and there were years where I didn’t even make 5 figures. I have never made 6 figures (yet.) 

As I developed the conflict resolution skills I now help others to implement, I realised - albeit too late - that I could have completely transformed my situation making me a hell of a lot richer :)

It wasn’t her that cost me the 700K, but me.
Shitty realization, I know. 

How would your situation be different if you decided that the cost of your conflict is too great, and you truly committed to turning your conflict around?

Best,
Theresa
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P.S. If you also have a bitchy boss, or even a crazy coworker, come join me at Thrive At Work, where I support women in negative work relationships, to gain the perspective, confidence, and communication skills they need to turn the situation around. We would love to have you! 

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