Seems unbelievable, I know, so let me back up a bit.
When I was working for my not so great boss, it was taking a major emotional toll that cannot be easily quantified in numbers:
Diminished Feelings of Worthiness
Loss of Purpose
Increase irritability which affected my other relationships.
I don’t think I can put a price on any of those because they are in fact PRICELESS.
That is just the emotional side.
Let’s talk about the financial side.
It has been 5 years since I quit my job with my not-so-great boss. At the time I was making a 6 figure salary.
5 years x $100,000 = $500,000 NOT earned.
(Not including any pay raises or cost of living increases that I may have gotten.)
In addition, there is the fact that I quit 6 months shy of being vested for my pension, which on the low end would have given me $800/month from the age 65 to death.
$800 x 20 years (low estimate) = $192,000.
And because I was living in America, where healthcare is not a right, I had to pay to be added to my husband’s health insurance.
$500/month x 24 months = $12,000.
GRAND TOTAL: $704,000
And yes, I have earned money since I quit, but it hasn’t been nearly the amount that I would have made if I had stayed.
For the first 6 months after I quit I had no income.
Then I got a job making $9.25/hour, then up to $20/hour.
When I started my coaching business, it took a long time to get things rolling, and there were years where I didn’t even make 5 figures. I have never made 6 figures (yet.)
As I developed the conflict resolution skills I now help others to implement, I realised - albeit too late - that I could have completely transformed my situation making me a hell of a lot richer :)
It wasn’t her that cost me the 700K, but me.
Shitty realization, I know.
How would your situation be different if you decided that the cost of your conflict is too great, and you truly committed to turning your conflict around?
P.S. If you also have a bitchy boss, or even a crazy coworker, come join me at Thrive At Work, where I support women in negative work relationships, to gain the perspective, confidence, and communication skills they need to turn the situation around. We would love to have you!
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