You may already know the story of how I got into coaching, but in case you don't here is the short version.
At the age of 34, life was looking pretty great. I was married, had a well-paying job, great friends, supportive family, even a dog :) But on the inside, it wasn't so calm and peaceful because I was engaged in a pissing contest with the boss of said, "well paying job."
I thought I was tough enough to endure the hardship and stress of it all, but when my boss's boss finally called me in to say "time to go." I felt blindsided, angry, and very resentful. Even when I left my job, my former boss didn't leave me.
It took the skilled work of a coach to help me see who I was being in that relationship, as well as who I was being in my life in general. She helped me to see how and where I had given away my emotional well-being, and how and where I had given away my power. It turns out that not only did I need a detox from my boss, but I needed a detox from myself and my own habitual ways of thinking, being, and doing in the world.
Last month in the Emerge Book Circle we read the book "Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself" where Dr. Joe Dispenza highlights how much of our self is embedded in our subconscious mind, and just how much of that subconscious mind is running the show.
As Jen Sincero puts it in her first book book "Our conscious mind thinks it's in control, but it isn't. Our subconscious mind doesn't think about anything, but is in control."
So in the wake of my forced exit from my old job, I had to not only detox from the negative feelings of my own boss, but I also needed to detox from myself in many ways. It's actually still a practice for me as that subconscious mind is so damn strong.
It is also why I work with clients to create a Self-Full Life--a life where they are emotionally and mentally INdependent, so that they can be better INTERdependent without worrying so much about what others think, so, or do. They are self-aware, know their self-talk, have a large sense of self-respect, are self-motivated, have self-leadership skills, and operate from an intense and deeps sense of SELF-LOVE.
Do you ever think you need a detox?