Before a sculptor touches her stone, she first must create a vision of what her sculpture is going to look like. She must imagine and sketch out the beautiful creation that lies beneath the jaggedness of the stone in front of her.
The stone is rough. It is uncomfortable. The sculptor might not want to touch it or sit on it because it would start to hurt.
Yet, lying underneath is something extraordinary. Something magical. Something untapped, untouched, and never seen before.
And slowly, minute by minute, day by day, the sculptor chisels away at the rock. Smooths out the roughness. Sometimes she gets tired and has to come back another day. Sometimes she leaves bruised and bloody, and yet she returns again and again because she is committed to uncovering what lies underneath that jagged exterior. She sees the vision and is determined to help that beauty come to life.
You are also a sculptor.
The sculptor of your relationships.
Your relationship with yourself and your relationships with others.
If you want to create something beautiful and magical in your relationships, it starts with a vision. What kind of relationships do you want? Who will you be? Who will they be? Who will you be together? How will it feel to be with them? What is it like when that beauty comes alive? What happens if you have cracks? How will you repair them?
Then, once you have created the possibility, it is up to you to gather your tools together, and start the work.
There may be moments when it feels hard.
When you have the wrong tools.
When you chip away too much.
When you need to smooth out the edges.
When you walk away bruised and bloody.
When you have to step back and see things from a wider perspective.
When you have to say, “Now’s not the right time.”
But, when you commit to keep going, the vision starts to show.
The relationship starts to shift.
The beauty starts to glow from within.
And it all starts with you.
Your thoughts, your feelings, your words and your presence are your tools. Use them well, and you can create something beautiful.
Courage. Compassion. Connection.